Advent and Marriage: Christmas Day —
 OUR LIGHT HAS COME — A Couple’s Bible Study

Advent — preparing our hearts to celebrate the real meaning of Christmas–the coming of Christ into the world. (Read all about it here.
Each Couple’s Bible Study post leading up to Christmas is a lesson on the focus of Advent for that week. These teachings will not only help keep your thoughts, heart, and home centered on Christ during this season, but also apply to your marriage and family as well. Use them in Couple Connect or in your family Advent time.
The first week of Advent focused on HOPE; the second week on PREPARATION; the third on JOY. The last week was on PEACE. And this post–for Christmas Day–is all about LIGHT. If you are using an Advent wreath, light the center candle–the white candle–the CHRIST candle.
“The people walking in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned.” – Isaiah 9:2

The Light Has Come

That long-awaited day is finally here. Christmas Day. The day the light dawned. The day Jesus was born. On this day so long ago, the Son of God stepped down from heaven and came to this earth. Came just like any other person…born as a baby.

Paul writes in Galatians 4:4-5: “But when the time had fully come, God sent His Son, born of a woman, born under law, to redeem those under law, that we might receive the full rights as sons.”

God sent His Son Jesus to offer us salvation by forgiving us of our sins and the penalty of eternal separation from Him. (If you don’t know Him, if you haven’t yet received His gift of love and salvation, please read this to learn how to receive this amazing gift.)

As we light the Christ candle (the white candle of the Advent wreath), we are reminded of Christ’s purity and the incarnation–perfect God becoming perfect man. This is the heart of this Advent season. This center candle symbolizes God giving light to the world. A world that had been dark for over 400 years, between the last word from God through the prophet Malachi and the coming of His Living Word, the baby Jesus.

Jesus is the Light

The Christ candle is placed in the center of the Advent wreath to symbolize Christ as the light that is central and radiant. This reminds us that Jesus is the spotless Lamb of God, sent to wash away our sins. John does not have the actual account of Jesus’ birth in his Gospel. But he does tell in his own way the coming of the Messiah to the earth. It includes the aspect of Jesus as the Light coming into the darkness. He writes in John 1:1-5: “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made; without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness…” 

Jesus light

Jesus came to the earth to bring His light of love, grace, and truth in the midst of darkness. The news of what is happening in this world reveals every day just how dark and sin-filled it is. When we accept Jesus as our Savior and Lord, His light comes into us, and we then are to be His light to those around us. Jesus told His disciples (and that includes us who follow Him today): “‘You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven'” (Matthew 5:14-16).

His Light in Our Marriages

As Christ-followers, we are to allow His light that is in us to shine to those around us. When we are married, we should do this first and foremost to our wives and husbands.

Men, when we love our wives “just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25), we are letting Christ’s light shine forth from us to her and to the world. When we love our wives and are not “harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19), we are shining Christ’s light on her.

And wives, this applies to you as well. When you follow God’s Word to you in Ephesians 5:22: “Submit to your husbands as to the Lord,”  and Colossians 3:18: “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord,” the light and love of Christ shines from you onto your husbands and before the world.

Husbands and wives who let God’s light shine onto each other like this will delight Him. We will show our love to each other and to the Lord. Jesus clearly stated in John 14:15: “If you love Me, you will obey what I command.” Treating our spouses as He commands shows Him we do indeed love Him. It lets His light shine from us. It says to our husband or wife that we love them. It allows for us to have the wonderful marriage that both we and God desire.

Our precious Savior came into the world to bring light into the darkness. As you celebrate His birth today, let His light fill your heart so that it will shine out to all around you. What will you do to shine the light and love of Jesus on your spouse today?

Enhancing the Advent Celebration

Here are some suggested Scripture readings for this Christmas Day…
Luke 2:1-20
John 8:12
John 9:4-5

Our sweet friends,
Thank you for joining us on this Advent journey. We are so blessed to have the privilege of sharing our hearts and God’s Word with you. We pray that you have a wonderful Christmas with your family and friends, full of the light of our precious Savior Jesus Christ.


In His love,
David and Sabra


Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture taken from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

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For other posts in this Advent series, click here…
Introduction – A Beautiful Celebration
Week 1 – Our Hope
Week 2 – Our Preparation
Week 3 – Our Joy
Week 4 – Our Peace


About David Penley

A devoted husband and father, former pastor and seminary professor, who longs to grow closer to the likeness of Christ each day and share God's love and truth with everyone.