This week we conclude our short study on the importance of a wife’s love and respect for her husband. There is much more that could be written about, but these are three areas I believe are vitally important. We have already discussed the importance of encouragement and companionship from our wives. I have saved the best of this series for last. This week we learn about the importance of a wife praying for her husband.
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” – James 5:16
There is not much husbands appreciate more than knowing our wives pray for us.
We men can believe we are strong and self-reliant. And, yes, we can be stubborn (we are always right, aren’t we?). But I have honestly only had one man tell me when I offered to pray for him, “Don’t bother.” Most of us believe there is a God, and we know we can use His help at times. And those of us who are Christians know we need God’s help all the time. So we are blessed when we know our wives pray for us.
Sabra wakes me up every morning by gently waking me and praying for me. She doesn’t pray long. But it assures me that she does pray for me, and gets my day started by focusing on the Lord. Ladies, you might try that with your husbands. And men, you can return the blessing to your wife as well.
Scripture calls us to pray for each other over and over again. Paul writes in Ephesians 6:18: “Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” He instructs his young protégé in 1 Timothy 2:1: “I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people.” “All people” certainly includes the one we are closest to–our spouse.
God calls us to pray for our spouses, as we see in James 5:16: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
Jesus prayed regularly while on earth, and He taught us how to pray in Matthew 6:5-13. The longest example we have of Jesus praying Himself is in John 17:6-26 when He prayed for His disciples and for us just before He went to the cross. Even while facing the suffering of bearing our sins, He knew the importance of praying for us. That is real love.
That is the love we need to show each other as husbands and wives. That is the love both husbands and wives need. That is the love the toughest of men need. To receive that from our wives is a great blessing and much appreciated.
Prayer will draw us closer together more than anything else we do.
Pray for your spouse before they face whatever they are doing that day. If you know they are going to be dealing with something especially important or difficult, pray with them about it as you kiss them goodbye. Remember, it doesn’t have to be long. God knows your heart and thoughts. And continue praying for them throughout the day.
If you are married to a believer, pray regularly with your spouse. Men, we need to lead the way in this.
If you are married to an unbelieving spouse, pray regularly for him or her, including prayer for their salvation. Do not give up. Remember what we quoted earlier from James 5:16: “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
I cannot tell you how much it means to know Sabra prays for me. Ladies, I know it will mean much to your husbands also.
Having a Couple Connect time is a great time to pray together. To learn how to use this tool in your marriage, download our free ebook here: Couple Connect – A Simple Weekly Plan to Stay Close for a Lifetime. And each week in Couple’s Bible Study posts, we will have “Questions for Discussion,” which you can use during this weekly couple time. Again, men, lead the way in doing this.
As I wrote at the beginning of this teaching, we have only touched on a few of the ways that a wife’s love and respect are so important to her husband. We would love to read some more ideas from you about this. Please give us your thoughts in the “Comments” section. Your ideas may well show up in a future post.
Questions for Discussion
- Read the teaching together, including all the Scripture references in it. Discuss what God is teaching you about praying for each other.
- Husbands, express to your wife the importance of knowing she is praying for you. Tell her some specific things you would like for her to pray about for you and with you. Take a moment to stop right now, and allow her to pray for you.
- Wives, now you tell your husband how important it is for him to pray for you. Tell him some specific things you would like him to be praying for and with you. Take a moment to stop right now, and allow him to pray for you.
Next week, we begin a study on the armor of God and how it is important to keeping our marriages strong.
Until then, may God bless you in all His wonderful ways,
Other posts from A WIFE’S LOVE AND RESPECT FROM A HUSBAND’S VIEW series:
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