Easter is now behind us. But as Christ’s followers, is it ever really behind us? We must never forget what Christ did for us–His taking our sins upon Himself by dying on the cross, paying our debt, and offering His forgiveness. Or lose sight of Christ rising again from the dead–defeating death, sin, and hell–so through faith in Him we can spend eternity with Him in heaven.The message of Easter is vital to every day of our lives. It is vital to our marriage. And this week, we move to a new Couple’s Bible Study topic–the importance of a godly wife to her husband–remembering the truths of Easter as we go.
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10
How important is a godly wife to her husband? God’s Word in Proverbs 31:10 above makes it clear–she is more precious than anything this world values.
Husbands, this is how we should view our wives. When a wife strives to follow God’s Word, her character will be honorable and she will be a blessing to her husband.
A wife of noble character will treat her husband with love and respect. And one of the ways she does this is to encourage him.
The feelings and ego of a husband can be very fragile. We men can seem hard and tough on the outside, but inside we can be crushed and wounded. And the one who can hurt us most deeply and deflate us the quickest is the person we love and respect the most–the person whose opinion we value most. In fact, this is the one person that matters most–our wife.
We can put up with a lot from our bosses. Our friends can say and do a lot of hurtful things while “joking.” We take a lot of grief in sporting venues. But the one place we want to know we are loved and respected is at home. If we know our wife loves and respects us, we can deal with just about anything else.
I used to laugh at the TV show Everybody Loves Raymond when it was on in the late 1990’s and early 2000’s. I began watching it again recently on reruns, looking forward to a good laugh. But I’m not laughing anymore. Why? Because Raymond–the main character who is a bumbling husband and father–is constantly being ridiculed, demeaned, and ordered around by his smarter, more attractive wife. And you can just see him cower and deflate as she yells at him. There’s nothing funny about that.
Yes, it is an accurate picture of what can happen in a marriage. And certainly there are men who do this to their wives as well. And no matter if it is the wife belittling the husband or vice versa, it is harmful and it is sin. When a wife treats her husband this way, it makes it difficult for him to treat her as the precious jewel God’s Word says she is.
We are given a solution to this issue in 1 Thessalonians 5:10-11: “He [Jesus] died for us so that, whether we are awake or asleep [alive or dead], we may live together with him. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up.“
And God teaches in Hebrews 10:23-24 that we should “hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” These passages apply to every believer, but certainly to a husband and wife.
This type of loving encouragement is needed by both husband and wife. And it should be given by both.
But speaking as a husband, we men greatly need this encouragement from our wives. We can be a bit wimpy at times and a bit self-focused. We can begin feeling a bit sorry for ourselves (okay–maybe a more than a bit at times), and we need God’s comfort and support from our wives.
There have been many times over the years I have come home from a meeting with a group or an individual or from some other appointment where I have had a difficult time, and God used the loving encouragement of my wife to help me get through it and survive to serve Him another day. It is a blessing to know I will find support and love in the heart of my wife, no matter what else is going on in my life.
So wives be that loving encourager for your husband God calls you to be. And husbands, we should do this for our wives as well. I guarantee it will make for a stronger, more beautiful marriage–one that glorifies God.
Questions for Discussion
- Read the Scripture passages in today’s teaching. What is God saying to you about the importance of encouragement in our lives and of being an encourager to your spouse (and others)?
- Share with your husband or wife some areas you could use some encouragement from them. Give them some specific ways to be an encouragement to you.
- Having heard what your spouse has shared, what are some specific ways you can encourage them?
- Thank your husband or wife for specific ways they encourage you.
- Pray words of encouragement over each other. Ask God to encourage your spouse. Ask God to reveal to you ways you can encourage them more.
Next week, we will continue this study by looking at another way God uses wives to bless their husbands–and vice versa.
Until then, may God bless you in all His wonderful ways,
Other posts from A WIFE’S LOVE AND RESPECT FROM A HUSBAND’S VIEW series:
Part 3–Praying for Him
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